CREATE A SAFER WORLD FOR THE GIRL CHILD
By McIntosh Ngwenya
16 Days of Activism against Gender Based Violence
A man was created to be a provider and a protector. To be a sustainer not a murderer. It is his duty
to be a responsible provider to his children and a reliable protector to his woman. A man must be
there spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically and financially for his woman and children. Ouch!
It is catastrophic that we’re living in a moral bankrupt and wicked society where men are abusive
-What is abuse?
-What are the forms of abuse?
-How can we eradicate abuse from the face of earth?
What is abuse?
Abuse is any form of behaviour which causes fear, bodily harm and emotional harm. To abuse is to treat a human or animal with cruelty and violence. Furthermore, it is to force a person to do things against their will.
Forms of abuse
Abuse unfold in various forms, but l will delve in five most common form of abuse which a prevalent in our societies – namely; physical abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, technological abuse and financial abuse.
Physical abuse – This form of abuse entails hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, burning, strangulation and use of weapons. Refusing medical care and/ or controlling medication. Damaging personal
property or coercing partner into substance abuse.
Emotional abuse – It includes name calling, insulting, shaming, isolation, humiliating, stalking and intimidation. Blaming the partner for everything and controlling what the partner goes or where they go.
Sexual abuse – Forcing a partner to have sex with other people (human trafficking). Pursuing sexual activity when the victim is not fully conscious or is afraid to say “NO”. Coercing a partner to have sex without protection or sabotaging birth control.
Technological abuse – Hacking into a partner’s email and personal accounts. Using tracking devices in a partner’s cellphone to monitor their location, phone calls and messages. Demanding to know partner’s passwords, so as to monitor their interactions via social networks.
Financial abuse – Inflicting physical harm or injury that would prevent the person from attending
work. Damaging a partner’s credit score, controlling financial asset and effectively cloning a partner on an allowance.
Measures of eradicating abuse and all forms of gender based violence.
Various legislations like The Domestic Violence Act of 1998, The Children’s Act of 2005 and The
Promotion of Equity and Prevention of Unfair Discrimination Act of 2000 were implemented as
measures of bringing an awareness, protection and as means to curb the scourge of abuse.
In my own perspective to end gender based violence it takes all sectors of the country or globe like
political parties, business enterprises and religious groups to come together and embark on a global campaign which advocates to empower, cherish and protect the girl-child. In addition, with men as the main perpetrators, it will be a brilliant idea to rethink patriarchy and educate males not to rape, abduct, murder or violently execute femicide. On a crucial note, we must construct institutions that will build and mentor the boy-child to grow-up and to be a responsible citizen and principled future leaders.
*** IT IS WISE TO GROOM BOYS THAN TO REPAIR BROKEN MEN***
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